The Pitfalls Of "Too Much"
Many of us come into parenting wanting our child to have all the things we didn’t have. The dangers are that we may be doing our child a disservice while seeking to do all that we can for our child. We may buy them the latest and greatest toys only to find that we have overwhelmed our child with so many choices that they cannot appreciate or discriminate which one to play with. We may overschedule them with lessons and activities only to find them having a tantrum because what they really want is a little down time. Or if you find that you are spending all your resources on your child’s education, activities, and lessons and are forfeiting things that bring you personal satisfaction, you may want to consider getting things back in balance. What children need more than anything is loving attention. Everything else is additive. If doing a particular hobby will make you a happier mom or dad in the process, it will make for a more joyful parent. If on the other hand, you are so busy doing your hobby and have little time to take care of your child, you may want to question the long term effects on your child having a parent more interested in spending time elsewhere. (And by the way, buying material things to compensate for the lack of time spent with a child never seems to pay off. The child eventually becomes savvy to this placating technique.) It is difficult to find balance when raising a child. Too much for the child at the expense of the parents is just as imbalanced as too much for the parents at the expense of the child.