In the classic movie, Miracle on 34th Street, Fred and Doris are romantically interested in each other. Written below is an argument between them because Fred has decided to take on the legal case of Kris Kringle:
Fred: It’s not just Kris on trial. It’s everything he stands for. It’s kindness and joy and love and all the other intangibles.
Doris: Oh Fred, you’re talking like a child. You’re living in a realistic world and these lovely intangibles of yours are attractive and not worth very much. You don’t get ahead that way.
Fred: That all depends on what you call getting ahead. Evidently, you and I have different definitions.
Doris: These last few days we talked about some wonderful plans. Then you go on an idealistic binge. You give up your job. You throw away all your security and then you expect me to be happy about it.
Fred: Yes, I guess I expected too much. Look Doris, some day you’re going to find that your way of facing this realistic world just doesn’t work and when you do, don’t overlook the intangibles. You’ll discover they’re the only things that are worthwhile.
May the true meaning of Christmas, Hanukkah, and Kwanzaa, be a blessing to you and may you enjoy many intangibles!
Live with Love! Peace!
"If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too:
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;
If you can dream---and not make dreams your master;
If you can think---and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same:.
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build'em up with worn-out tools;
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings,
And never breathe a word about your loss:
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings---nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much:
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And---which is more---you'll be a Man, my son!"
As much as possible, take the higher road and live with Love!
All of a sudden I woke up with a jolt of feeling angry at bad news I had received by email earlier in the day. Why out of all the days of the year, did I have to receive this “bad news” on my birthday? I woke up mad, really mad. As I often think there are no accidents, I got out of bed and started reading to calm myself. I was a bit confused because it was uncharacteristic of me to wake up in the middle of the night angry over something that seemed semi-petty. As I thought about it, I realized I wasn’t angry so much about the timing of the email I received, I was really angry about another greater challenge/tragedy I was currently dealing with in my personal life. I began to wonder if receiving this email was a way to “wake me up” physically and metaphorically to my angrier/stronger side. I had prayed to get guidance about my personal situation before I went to sleep that night. I had no idea my answer would come in the form of getting angry. But I think it was just the shot I needed to help shift my perspective. I tend to err on the softer side; I realized the timing of the email was a vehicle to help motivate my energy in a different direction regarding my situation.
Ultimately, I do not feel anger is a negative quality, but rather a human quality. It could be used to motivate us towards good or harm. In my case, I realized that perhaps I needed to mobilize more of my stronger side to better deal with my challenging situation for the benefit of myself and others… Perhaps I was being too soft about my situation, in the moment mistaking compassion as being reflected only in kindness. Compassion can also be used in a way to not be trampled on and to set appropriate boundaries! Kindness is good, but sometimes it requires being strong and firm at the same time.
The next morning when I woke up and received negative news on the phone, I was better prepared with how to deal with the situation. My internal guidance system from that night helped me access more of my strength in making appropriate decisions for the day.
So if there is anything I can share with you that I hope in some way might be helpful, it would be, “Be compassionate, and when necessary, be firm.”
Live with Love!